What Teenage Girl
193 Pages

What Teenage Girl's Don't Tell Their Parents



As a parent you know that your ‘child’ is not just another teenager, struggling to grow up. She is your daughter. That in itself makes her the most unique and important teenager in the world. But when your sweet little girl suddenly stops talking, won‘t do anything you tell her to do, and starts dressing like she stepped out of a celebrity magazine, you start wondering what went wrong. Michelle Mitchell has spent the last 10 years day-in, day-out, listening and talking with teenage girls about their lives, loves, hates and hopes. In this book she reveals that its what your daughter isn’t telling you rather than what she does tell you that matters the most. Featuring an engaging and fresh voice, this book is full of straightforward advice in a complicated world. Its honesty, reality and practicality is ably illustrated by the many real anecdotes from teenagers themselves about their hectic everyday lives.



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Published 02 April 2011
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EAN13 9781921513787
Language English
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Rich in practical tips, as well as providing some much needed humour and ‘ah ha’ moments. I’ve already added some of Michelle’s parenting tips into my own repertoire and found them to work brilliantly! Jen Hunter — Social Worker/Parent of teenage daughter
Michelle has a marvellous way of speaking the truth in a way that parents can all appreciate. Sometimes shocking, yet straight from the heart — an insightful read. Parents will benefit greatly from this book and find that they are not alone in their battle.
Dale Dearman — Guidance Officer/ Student Counsellor, Grace Lutheran College
Pity my mum’s reading this — it just ruined all my future plans. Now I won’t be able to get away with anything. Just kidding! This book is really good, and hits close to home. It will help us heaps. Kate — 14 years old
Michelle Mitchell
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National Library of Australia CataloguinginPublication entry: Author: Mitchell, Michelle. Title: What teenage girls don’t tell their parents / Michelle Mitchell. ISBN: 9781921513770 (pbk.) 9781921513787 (epub) Subjects: Teenage girlsPsychology. Parent and teenager. Dewey Number: 305.2352 Cover illustration by Adriana Biaggini. Photograph and cover design by Maria Biaggini. Typeset in Garamond 12.5 pt by Australian Academic Press.
Parenting teenage girls can be a daunting task, which at times requires seemingly saintlike degrees of patience. One of the major difficulties parents face is gauging the balance between overprotection and negligence, as well as determin ing when and how to intervene in their teen’s life. With the advent of new communication technologies, including smart phones and mobile internet, teenagers are enjoying an increasing amount of freedom, autonomy, independence and perceived privacy from their parents. It is becoming much more difficult for parents to keep up to date with their teenagers’ lives. Social networking has taken the world by storm. Some teenage girls eagerly broadcast their most pre cious secrets on the World Wide Web before sharing with their families. With reports of teen substance use and abuse, school truancy, highrisk sexual behaviours, depression and even suicide, parents have very real cause for concern. Yet one of the common barriers to parent–teen communi cation is embarrassment about discussing these concerns (on both the parent and the teen’s behalf ). There can also be denial, confusion and an expectation that the problem will
work itself out. Teens often adhere to the advice of their friends over their parents. While teens may struggle to believe their parents can relate to what they are going through, parents are typically slow to acknowledge the signif icant changes to society in recent decades. With incompati ble expectations, communication breaks down. The teen years are some of the most significant in terms of emotional, physical, behavioural, sexual and even spiritual development throughout one’s lifetime. While their brain and body continue to form into the person they will spend the rest of their lives being, it is crucial that teenagers are provided with a consistent, positive guide for these years. Parental support is necessary to comfort, guide, protect, correct, encourage, mould and enjoy these years. Research has shown that being in a supportive family who use open communication to deal with problems can not only reduce the risk of highrisk harmful behaviours during this time, but also promote selfworth and emotional resiliency. What Teenage Girls Don’t Tell Their Parentsis a refresh ingly thoughtful take on the teenage girl’s experience ‘straight from the horse’s mouth’. While at times humorous and at other times heartbreaking, Michelle Mitchell details the open and transparent experiences of teenage girls as they relate to parents and peers, providing the reader with insight into the collective mind of the adolescent female. The girls in this book could be any teenage girls; they could even be your own daughters. In a society that often looks at this young population with some disdain, each girl represented in this
book is viewed as someone’s precious daughter. This refresh ing viewpoint delves beyond the surface complaints that teens often present with, to a deeper ‘heartlevel’ connection, and sheds light on what our daughters arereallythinking about. This is an unprecedented way for parents to take a glimpse inside their daughters’ minds and to hear some of the secrets that they don’t (but really do) want their parents to know,beforetheir situation gets out of control.What Teenage Girls Don’t Tell Their Parentsprovides practical advice in separating ‘ordinary’ teenage behaviour from behaviours that may warrant professional help. Guidance is also offered for the many tricky circumstances parents and daughters are likely to face throughout the teen years, helping mums and dads to view the present with more understanding so as to provide greater hope for their daughter’s future. Dr Robi Sonderegger Humanitarian Activist & Clinical Psychologist