WOMANDLA! Women Power!
444 Pages
English
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444 Pages
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Rolene Miller registered Mosaic, Training, Service and Healing Centre to empower abused women, and like a Mosaic ‘to put the broken pieces of their lives together and make their lives more beautiful,’ Womandla! Women Power! is an account of Mosaic’s Community Workers’ and Court Workers’ lives, training and services and Rolene’s writings describing the journey. Their humour and laughter is present whilst constantly moving through the difficult days at Mosaic. This book describes Mosaic’s support from our caring God. It is a human story where honest values are realised and people’s lives are changed forever. It is for readers who want to know the ‘Herstory’ of a ground-breaking and innovative Mosaic working with abused women for 25 successful years and still surviving today. ‘Womandla! Women Power!’ belongs to everyone who in our patriarchal culture and society wants to prevent and stop Women Abuse and Domestic Violence and who needs to seriously and critically condemn it.

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Published 17 September 2018
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EAN13 9789956550166
Language English
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difficult days at Mosaic.
WOMANDLA!
Women Power!
Rolene Miller
WOMANDLA! Women Power! Rolene Miller
L a ng a a R esea rch & P u blishing CIG Mankon, Bamenda
Publisher:LangaaRPCIG Langaa Research & Publishing Common Initiative Group P.O. Box 902 Mankon Bamenda North West Region Cameroon Langaagrp@gmail.comwww.langaa-rpcig.net Distributed in and outside N. America by African Books Collective orders@africanbookscollective.com www.africanbookscollective.com
ISBN-10: 9956-550-15-9
ISBN-13: 978-9956-550-15-9
©Rolene Miller 2018All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, mechanical or electronic, including photocopying and recording, or be stored in any information storage or retrieval system, without written permission from the publisher
Acknowledgements Many people helped and encouraged me to writeWomandla! Women Power!I was supported when I got ‘writers block’ and reinvigorated when constantly being questioned on how I was progressing, and when I would finish writing the book. My gratitude goes to my family and friends who sustained me through the early formative years and who read the first drafts of Womandla! Women Power!acknowledge your generous praise and I criticism of my writing. I am grateful to you for expressing how valuable the story of Mosaic would be for the History of Women Abuse in our country. I want to thank Gwynne Robins my superb Editor. You were firm but kind in helping reduce the number of pages of the book and for having me delete all personal information which was not necessary for the telling of the story of Mosaic. Thank you for keeping my voice and integrity in the birthing of this book. Thank you my colleague and friend Marianne Liebenberg for designing the cover of Womandla and for designing our Mosaic logo’s. We appreciate you and thank you. Sheryl Ozinsky my long-time friend wrote the eloquent Forward. Thank you for writing so well and for having faith in me before Mosaic came into existence. Thank you for standing as Chairperson and for being on the Board of Mosaic, helping me to maintain the sanctity and spirit of Mosaic. I am grateful to you and to all of Mosaic’s Board Members for your unfailing support. Francis Nyamnjoh, thank you for trusting me and for recommending the book to Roselyne Jua the Editor and Publisher from Langaa RPCIG based in Bamenda, Cameroon. I appreciate our meetings and for all that you have both undertaken to speed up the process of publishing this book. I am grateful to both of you for your enthusiasm and energy and for your commitment and patience. I specifically want to acknowledge and thank my Mosaic Staff Members for allowing me to publish your personal stories and permitting me to record your evolving growth with me, through Mosaic. I am so proud of you and I want to recognise your contributions to our bookWomandla! Women Power!You are powerful and creative women and without you there would be no story. Your resilience and courage to carry on with the difficult training and your resourcefulness in going into communities and courts to educate and give services to abused women and children is exemplary.
Finally, but most of all I want to thank our exceptional God, our Source of All Power and Life, for sustaining us at Mosaic for the past Twenty Five Years. There are no word to adequately describe our thanks to You. Without You we would not have been able to survive and become a caring and valuable resource for healing abused women and children in our country. I began writingWomandla! Women Power!many years ago. For the past two years I have focussed on my writing and editing the information. Today I am proud that this book is finally complete and for it to be ‘out in the world’ for interested readers to learn the lessons that we all learnt at Mosaic. I have changed some names because of the personal nature of the disclosures. But everyone is real and is a part of our story. Thank you Riaan Goosen, my colleague and friend and to everyone who keeps Mosaic supported and successful. I appreciate you all.
Table of Contents Acknowledgements ........................................................ iii Foreword ........................................................................ vii 1. The beginning ............................................................ 1 2. Overseas research ....................................................... 7 3. Return to Cape Town ................................................. 13 4. Kim, Mandy and Phindi ............................................. 19 5. Letting go ................................................................... 33 6. Meeting Tammy ......................................................... 41 7. Advertising the course ................................................ 47 8. Funding proposals...................................................... 53 9. First day ...................................................................... 59 10. Creating bonds.......................................................... 67 11. Sharing lives .............................................................. 75 12. Our group.................................................................. 93 13. Behaving assertively.................................................. 103 14. Womandla – Women Power! .................................... 115 15. Uncovering woman abuse ........................................ 119 16. Conflict resolution..................................................... 141 17. Dealing with clients .................................................. 149 18. Abortion, Adoption, Witchcraft ................................ 163 19. Facilitation of groups................................................ 171 20. Porno Sexuality and Marketing ................................ 187 21. Time Is Running Out ............................................... 201 22. Happy New Year ...................................................... 213 23. Moving in the right direction ................................... 235 24. The second group ..................................................... 247 25. Promises ................................................................... 261 26. Heartbreak ................................................................ 267 27. Betrayal ..................................................................... 273 28. Fear and fury............................................................. 287 29. Revelations................................................................ 299 30. The group divided .................................................... 303 31. Give and give............................................................. 319
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32. Court volunteers........................................................ 329 33. Waves ........................................................................ 337 34. The court desks ........................................................ 343 35. New century and thriving......................................... 351 36. A home of our own ................................................... 361 37. New addition ............................................................ 369 38. More changes in the wind ........................................ 385 39. Leaving mosaic......................................................... 395 40. Handing over ............................................................ 399 41. Gifts ........................................................................... 403 42. 2005 ........................................................................... 417 43. Samila........................................................................ 419 44. Farewells ................................................................... 421 45. Mosaic comes of age ................................................ 425
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Foreword Many years ago I stood with Rolene on the banks of the Knysna Lagoon and listened as she described the enormity of the problem of women abuse in our country. I remember how in awe I was of this mother of twins who in her 40’s had a calling to change her comfortable life and begin to make a difference to the lives of the most vulnerable. We were in the Garden Route for a Rotary Conference and there, amidst all the committed men and women, Rolene Miller somehow stood out. I realise that what I identified in Rolene was courage. The courage that gets you from one moment to the next. The courage to believe in yourself, the courage that brings sanity and cheerfulness and hope to lives that could be utterly consumed by sorrow. Rolene was alive and things as they were really troubled her. From a world of remedial teaching, Rolene returned to University and completed two degrees qualifying her for work in the field of social work and counselling. In 1993 Rolene registered the NGO, Mosaic, and began to share her newly aquired skills with disadvantaged women who wanted to help their own communities. With the assistance of psychologists and adult educationalists, Rolene drew up a fulltime one-year training course for community workers and trained and mentored 27 women to work with women and youth who experienced gender based violence and abuse. She went on to initiate the Mosaic Court Support Services in fourteen Magistrates’ courts in the Western Cape and Gauteng. Together with her community workers she wrote the Protection Order Booklet for abused women called - ‘It’s an Order – A Simple Guide to your Rights’. What followed was more than a decade of building Mosaic into a focused and sustainable training and healing centre for women, eventually servicing close on 100 000 people per annum. Despite many difficult challenges, including periods of near bankruptcy, strained internal relationships, dealing with departmental bureaucracy and stakeholders operating in silos, Mosaic prevailed,
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with Rolene eventually handing over the baton to a team that she had mentored. There are not many people who can claim to have achieved what Rolene Miller has. The value of her story cannot be over emphasised. Mosaic serves as a model of how training women and men from the communities helps ensure that support services are determined both by the clients’ needs and their context and are rendered in a culturally appropriate and accessible manner. Mosaic can be regarded as a national blueprint for building financially sustainable and scalable organisations that deliver critical services to survivors of domestic violence and abuse, their children and partners. Their model of support and healing is aimed at empowering survivors to take charge of their own lives and become active, positive and thriving members of society who are capable of reaching their full potential. By documenting her story, Rolene imparts value to other NGO’s and gives us all the strength to dream that anything is possible if we live our lives fearlessly. Sheryl Ozinsky Chairperson of Mosaic 1998 - 2003
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It is Monday the 14th of November 2017. Riaan my colleague from Mosaic calls me. He tells me that Michael, a Board Member of Mosaic and a Member of Parliament, wants us to go to Parliament tomorrow afternoon. Can I go with him? It does not occur to me to ask him why Michael wants us to go to Parliament. I think that there is something that Michael want us to witness. I say that I am free tomorrow and I will meet him there. On Tuesday Riaan and I are met by Michael, who signs us in. “Do you know why you are here?” he asks me. I have no idea. Riaan looks at me and smiles. Michael says that he is going to present me and Mosaic in Parliament. He is going to introduce a motion without notice which has been passed unanimously by Parliament. He wants to recognise the outstanding contribution that I have made in the establishment of Mosaic. I am totally shocked and actually confused. Me? Mosaic? I ask Riaan what would have happened if I had said I could not go to Parliament. He laughs and says he would have come to fetch me wherever I was. I am overwhelmed. What an amazing tribute. I hug Michael. I thank him so much for presenting me and Mosaic’s work over the past twenty four years. Who would have thought that something I had started on my own because a dismissive lecturer had made fun of me and my anger at the lack of facilities for deprived and abused woman, is now being honoured in Parliament? What an honour and a privilege to be recognised by Michael and Parliament today.
M icha el, R ia a n with m e in P a rlia m ent
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